Yep. DH is having an affair. I found out Monday after he got a weird text message and lied about it.
I checked the phone records that night and I found months of exchanges between him and this other number. He lied till the facts were laid out. Then he blamed me.
11 years as a couple, nearly 6 years of marriage, 5 years of infertility, one daughter and another on the way and he went online and found someone else.
So my life is a shit storm right now. And I'm due in 7 weeks.
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Oh my God, Christa. I am so sorry. Words fail me. I am just sick hearing this.
I am on my phone, this is Jane from infertilefollies, sorry to be posting as anon.
Oh. My.
That is insane.
Is he crazy!???
He must be.
I am so appalled for you. I wish I lived closer so I could come over there and bring wine & brownies. (One glass is fine right!!!!?)
I am thinking of you and those babies, you all deserve so much better.
Xxoo
I went through something very similar after years of infertility. We have been separated for 9 months and are starting the divorce process. Big gigantic hugs to you. What helped me get through it most was going to weekly individual therapy and the support of my family and friends.
Christa - I am so sorry that you have to go through this and I will do anything I can to help. Even if it is just to offer a little support.
In the words of John Wayne..."Life is tough but it's tougher when you're stupid!". DH just did something really, really, really stupid. Beyond stupid. My uncle did this same thing to my aunt and the trust couldn't ever be repaired. I hope that you have a different outcome as you work through this storm.
...but one thing I know about you is that you are a survivor! It was NOT your fault. Don't accept that responsibilityfrom him. Stand strong and stand tall. And stand knowing that no, you can't control everything...but you can control yourself and you have a strength to get through the toughest of stuff. Infertility taught us that.
Hang in there and let us support you. This is your safe zone and we are here for you.
Hugs!
Oh my gosh!!! I am so sorry this has happened. I don't even know what to say to you. I am just so sorry.
Hey I've been thinking about you today.
I hope you are doing ok.
(wish there was something more I could say.)
Omg I literally gasped out loud reading the title of this blog post. I am so so sorry :( Unbelievable! I hope you have lots of good family and friends around to support you :( xo
How are you doing?? Thinking of you. xo
I've been reading your blog for a while now, but I don't think I've commented more than once or twice. I just don't know what to say about this - who does something like that?? Keeping you in my thoughts.
Oh my gosh. I can't believe this is happening to you. ((HUGS)) ((HUGS)) You don't deserve this, and you certainly didn't cause it. I hope you can work this out in the best way possible.
Looks like you got a life long problem. They never recover. Worse than heroin. Cancel him out of your life and move on.
I am so sorry to hear this. Please know YOU are not the problem and whatever crap he says that this was all your fault is just wrong. Men have a way of not owning anything (mine included). Sending you a ((HUG)). I will be praying for strength for you.
I am so sorry to hear this. Please know YOU are not the problem and whatever crap he says that this was all your fault is just wrong. Men have a way of not owning anything (mine included). Sending you a ((HUG)). I will be praying for strength for you.
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